I had a friend that was fitted for prescription glasses. It changed everything.

He realized he had been squinting his eyes to see, to read, to work, and people thought he was continually upset or filled with anxiety. Now that he could focus, he could relax.

Everything became clear. And he no longer pushed people away with negative facial cues.

Focus is what gets things done. The ability to shut out the noise changes everything. 

The problem comes in our understanding of what it means to focus. 

As men, we lean into working harder, pushing stronger, and straining our reach. The best definition of focus is to "see clearly." And seeing clearly doesn't mean greater intensity - it means greater intentionality. 

Focus is forged in the discipline to extract yourself from the unnecessary.

The greatest writers know that what they often need is not the right word, but removing...

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